Nobody said it was
easy, it’s such a shame for us to part – a line from the song ‘The Scientist’
by Coldplay. This song has always made me wonder about the complexities of a
relationship and its consequences. I believe the moment we enter into a
relationship our expectations, our thinking, choices everything changes. Now
whether the change happens due to our own preconceived notions or someone’s
influence is a different point altogether. The main crux is that the change
does happen.
Today I am not writing
this blog to talk about the changes, but I want to take you to the minute
details which make the relationship a success. In the morning I read an article
where a woman talks about how much marriage have changed her and taken away
from her. What I never understood is why people don’t talk about the positive
part of the marriage. Like every relationship, marriage does have its pros and
cons but that does not mean we only give weight to the cons.
Why don’t people talk
about their beautiful time with their spouses, their journey from courtship to
getting married, their struggles of the first year and how they came out of it,
of how much a mature and independent person they have become after marriage?
Why don’t they educate rest of the women of the dos and donts in a marriage so
that the newlyweds can learn something? Why can’t they be the support system
for the single ladies out there rather than scaring them of the beautiful
matrimony?
I too have been the
part of the scarred single girls, shying away from marriage until and unless my
best friend and her fiancé convinced me that an arranged marriage could be a
beautiful bond, filled with love along with minute sacrifices needed. They
taught me the importance of sacrifice, unconditional love and compromise one
needs to make. Sometimes I agree we girls sacrifice a lot but aren’t we getting
the support and love of our husband in return. Aren’t we lucky enough to be having
two identities and families taking care of us? Why can’t we bold enough to be
what we are rather than wearing a pleasing mask? Why we complain when we
ourselves bend way too much in fear of not being accepted.
I believe we only get
that in life what we desire or think about. Sometimes we are not even aware of
what we want but just because it is available around us and looks pleasing
enough our desire is created. Then the question arises how to know what to ask
and make sure it’s the best for us. Honestly, I have pondered over this hundreds
of time and always came up blank.
Until recently when I
came across a book “The Magic” by Rhonda Byrnes, this book taught me to be
grateful for the things I have and have faith in the universe that the best
would be given to me. At first, I thought it was some kind of marketing gimmick
but as I started practicing the grateful technique my life changed 360 degrees.
My opinion about life changed, expectations from people reduced and I started
enjoying each moment of my life.
It has been two years I
am following the grateful technique, honestly, I am living my dream life. I
couldn’t have created a much better life for myself the way the universe has
blessed me with. The reason I am writing this blog today is to reach out to
people and let them know life is beautiful, it’s just we have taken it way too
much for guaranteed to enjoy its benefits. Through this blog I want to urge the
women out there that there is no end to being negative and to crib about your
present situation but one positive approach about yourself and your situation
can make a huge difference in your life.
Most importantly the
belief that I would get the best in life whatever may happen, the universe or
god is taking care of us can bring a lot of change. This is the change we
should bring in our life, we should keep expectations from the universe or god,
we should be grateful for what all we have.
I am grateful and I am
reaping its positive benefits, its high time you should too.
